Barnes & Noble, Harry Potter, and the Smurfette Principle: Part 3

Pretty sure she had something to do with the on-shelf options at B&N.

This is the last part of the series on using men/boys as the default for readership.  Read the first two parts here and here.  Today, I’m offering some solutions.  We can’t solve everything, but this might be a start.

Time for the Big Question: What if Harry Potter had been a girl? (TRUTH)

I don’t just mean would we have read the books or would she have become a cultural icon.  I’m asking what would have changed if the story had been about a girl.

As written, the whole point of the story is The Boy Who Lived.  My guess is that if the protagonist were a girl, even though the story would have remained the same, in our cultural consciousness it would have become about The Girl Who Lived.  That is to say, suddenly it would have been about her femaleness rather than her spirit or her heart or her resolve.  (I like to give J. K. Rowling credit that this would not have been her doing, but that of cultural constructs that dictate male as neutral, objective, and default.)  The books would have been marketed toward girls, with a whole line of pink merchandise.

Because boy wizards are for everyone; girl witches are for girls.

(Interestingly, StoryNory has subverted this quite nicely.  You can listen to the original stories about Katie the Witch here.)

We could actually ask this question in a whole host of different ways, because the problem of the default is not limited to simply being male.  It’s also about being white, straight, neurotypical, able-bodied, and cisgender.  The moment a main character is not all of those things, it becomes all about being whatever else they might be.  (For example, if Harry had fallen in love with Dean or Neville instead of Ginny, it would have become a Coming Out story instead of a Defeating Voldemort story.)

The whole point of speculative fiction (which covers a pretty broad range–fantasy, science fiction, distopian, urban fantasy) is to leave our world and enter another.  Too often, those stories feature either a male main character or a character for whom their not-maleness (or not-straightness or not-whiteness or not-able-bodiedness or not cis-ness or whatever) becomes a key point in the plot.  You could have a story about a kid from the 25th century who travels back in time with a laser sword and a trusty sidekick to battle pirates in the 18th century.  Make the kid a girl and suddenly it’s all about how she has to “prove” herself among men or how she’s “atypical” in her culture for wanting to battle pirates.  You can swap out the girl for pretty much anyone who isn’t a white, straight, cis dude and the same thing happens.

That is not to say that there shouldn’t be anything different between the laser sword-wielding boy and the laser sword-wielding girl.  I’m not advocating for some unknown ideal of gender-neutrality.  I’m just explaining that when it comes to what’s on the book shelves, anyone who isn’t in the Approved Default Category gets a specially roped off section devoted to People Like That–which means that the story is often about dealing with both pirates and being a girl (or whatever) instead of just being about Saving the World From Pirates.

So what the heck do we do with that?  Let me give some completely unsolicited advice.

For writers:

  1. Be conscious of what you’re doing.  If you write a character that is Not You, please don’t make it all about how that person is Not You.  It might help to actually talk to (or better yet be friends with) people who are Not You so that you know what people might appreciate.  For example, I am done with princesses who rebel against expectations in order to go battle dragons.
  2. Discussing cultural norms works fine in historical/realistic fiction (when done well, mind you), but it doesn’t work well in fantasy.  Part of the appeal of speculative fiction is that these issues can be addressed sideways (as in Harry Potter with pureblood supremacy).  A girl dealing with sexism in her school election when she’s supposed to be dealing with sexism is great; a girl dealing with sexism on an alien planet when she’s supposed to be Saving the World is not.
  3. Be mindful of tropes.  Not all of them are bad, but racist, sexist, homophobic, ableist, and transphobic tropes are NOT EVER OKAY.
  4. Don’t make assumptions about what people will or won’t read.  Boys do, in fact, want to read about girls.  Not just adventuresome girls, either; boys do not naturally come with a setting that says, “Girls are boring.”  You can have an entire book that has mostly girls in it and guess what?  Boys will still read it!  Amazing, that.
  5. Stop limiting girls in “realistic” fiction to domesticity and relational drama.  Sometimes, girls have to deal with the death of a parent or a move to a new city or nerves about being the trombone soloist in the band concert–oddly, much like boys do.
  6. Same thing goes for any other characters that are not white, straight, cis boys.  It’s true that there are experiences unique to people who haven’t been considered the default, so those issues may come up in realistic fiction as things characters have to deal with.  But this can be done in a way that every kid can understand.  A good example of this is James Howe’s The Misfits and its companion books.  The kids in the books are dealing with things specific to them, but it’s done in the context of bullying–which makes it relatable regardless of the particulars.
  7. Most importantly, tell the story you have to tell.  Don’t stress about making your story an issues story, just make it a good story.

For readers (especially parents giving books to their kids):

  1. Don’t limit yourself.  If you can’t find the book at Barnes & Noble in-store, then look online.  Ask friends to recommend books.  Check with a librarian at your local branch.  There’s more than what’s on those store shelves.
  2. Make sure you give both boys and girls a wide variety from which to choose.  Read the back cover and the first chapter before handing something to your child–don’t just look at the cover and make assumptions.
  3. If you have a boy, don’t pass up books about girls because you think he won’t be interested.  The American Girl stories are really good (stupid, expensive product line aside).  The stories are not about “girlhood”; they are about friendship and family and kids experiencing changes in their lives, all within a historical context.
  4. A great way to find books for your child is to check out lexile.com.  If you know your child’s actual lexile, you can find books based on that.  If not, take a look at the last thing your child read.  Type the title into the search engine and you’ll come up with a lexile number for it.  If your child says that book is what my own son calls a “just right” read, you can enter the lexile number into the search to find similarly leveled books.  You can search by genre as well, including non-fiction.
  5. When you read, set the example by reading a broad range of books.  Interestingly, in the “new fiction” section of B&N, I found a completely different story from the kids’ section.  There were books by and about both men and women in approximately equal numbers.  The stories were varied–memoir, action, drama, romance, horror, mystery.  Take a chance on a new author!

Finally, I want to briefly touch on how this relates in particular to people of faith.  As a Christian, I take it seriously when the Bible says that in Christ there is no male or female.  For me that means that I need to work toward ending the injustice toward women, including the view that men are the default.  It’s important to me that my kids grow up knowing that real freedom, spiritually speaking, means being true to themselves and having the expectation that others will do likewise.  My daughter should not grow up believing the only thing God made special about her is that she’s a girl; my son should not grow up thinking that God put the burden of being the measuring stick upon him because he’s a boy.

Thanks for coming along for the ride this week, everyone.  Happy reading and writing–now go, change the world!

Notable News: Week of April 13-19, 2013

It’s been quite a week–so much tragedy.  There is really nothing I can say here that hasn’t been said already; I echo all of it.

When the world is this bleak, I find that I need something to lift me out of that.  All I want is a good, fluffy book to read and something that makes me smile.  So today’s Friday links are all about the lighter side of things.

1. Friday Freebie

A bunch of fellow writers and I contributed to this e-book of poetry: Love Poems Deconstructed.  It’s free, and who doesn’t like free stuff?  I am definitely not a poet, but it was a fun experiment.

2. Friday F***

Well, technically not.  But it’s related!  After my post about condoms on Wednesday, both of the lovely women I mentioned in my post weighed in on the topic.  (They ‘fessed up their literary identities, so I feel comfortable linking to them now even though I didn’t previously name them.)  Many thanks to Adrian for reminding me that consent is sexy for men, too.  And Sirena, you are most definitely not a bad feminist!  I’ve read your story, remember?  You write women who are a) fantastic and b) pass the Bechdel test.  Kudos!

Also, on a side note, I found this while searching for condoms in romantic fiction.  I’m one of those awful people who actively looks for something that’s going to indicate these people are being safe and healthy.  There are exceptions, but I even expect it in some types of fantasy or science fiction.  And the woman who said in the comments that she never uses them because she’s sure she’s low risk?  Yeah, I have a degree in health science, lady.  You’re not getting one past me.  Go buy some condoms, for Pete’s sake.

3. Friday Funny

Another good one from Naked Pastor.  Insert sarcastic comment about how I don’t have any experience with this at all.  Nope.

4. Friday Fiction

Here’s the latest installment in the ongoing saga of the Royal Family of Hell.  If you haven’t read them, check out Part 1 and Part 2 first (or today’s won’t make much sense).

Have a great weekend, all.  Play safe (in more ways than one)!

 

Because I can’t think of something else to write

By Timothy Takemoto from Yamaguchi, Japan (Sex is Dangerous 3  Uploaded by Fæ) [CC-BY-2.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0)], via Wikimedia Commons

Condom traffic light–this made me giggle.

It’s Wednesday, and I’m fresh out of the drive to write anything deeper than a backyard kiddie pool.  So on this fine, sunny morning (at least, it’s sunny where I am), you shall be treated to my random musings on writing.  Warning: I’m going to talk about smut a little.*

Last night, I was on Facebook chat with two authors with whom I’m privileged to work as a proofreader–let’s call them Author A and Author B.  They’re writing a novel together, and they’ve asked me to do the proofreading on this one, too.  I’m honored.  As I’ve gotten to know these fine women and their writing styles, I’ve grown to enjoy our working relationship immensely.  One of the perks of that is being able to laugh together.  And one of the things we like to laugh about is their merciless teasing about my . . . what should I call it? I think “condom kink” will do.

I’m not entirely sure how it started, actually.  (My kink, not the teasing.)  I think possibly sometime last fall when I was working on my NaNoWriMo novel.  I popped in at the erotica message board to ask about writing effectively when it comes to condom use.  (Before you all ask, no, I don’t typically write erotica; I just figured those people were the “experts” on the subject, and I was writing a sex scene.)  Not surprisingly, I got a couple dozen replies, and they were all over the map.  The vast majority (almost exclusively women) said they prefer just a passing mention; many felt it to be irresponsible not to talk about it at least briefly.  Several women said they dislike condoms in real life and in fiction.  The men (yes, people, men write erotica too) nearly all supported the idea of condom use as appealing and said, “Heck, yeah, you can make it sexy.”  (Weird, right?  How often are we told that men hate those damn things?)

Fast-forward to my present life as a proofreader.  I jokingly made a comment in the margin of Author B’s Word document praising her for mentioning a condom.  That one little comment has sparked a running gag–and I couldn’t be more delighted.  I mean, what better way to talk about this stuff?

See, here’s the thing.  I keep hearing from my sister feminists that we’re all in charge of our vaginas and what goes in them or comes out of them.  We’re supposed to be responsible for our desire to have or not have the children we want.  I absolutely agree, and I support legislation that will help us to do that.  But my big question is, who’s responsible for the penis?  Because it sure as heck ain’t me.

As a long-time married woman who trusts that I’m the only person with whom my husband is having sex, I don’t worry about these things.  I’ve got my uterus under control, thanks.  But what if we weren’t monogamous?  You had better believe that 1) we would NOT be having condom-free sex and 2) I would do everything in my power to make that condom damn sexy.  That right there is me being in charge of what goes in my vagina.  Any man who’s worth having sex with would be ready and willing to keep both himself and his partner from getting sick.

So you know what?  I’m happy to take the teasing–I know it’s all in fun.  I’m also willing (though slightly more reluctant) to admit my kink.  But I stand by what I write, and unless it’s an intentional part of the plot, you won’t ever find me writing a non-monogamous couple sans condom.  (Actually, you probably won’t find anything terribly graphic, either, but that’s a story for another day.)

Happy Wednesday, y’all.  Don’t forget your raincoats. *wink*

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*Cue my more conservative friends: “But…but…you’re a Christian!  How can you write smut?!”  Me: *huge eye roll*

Faith and art at the monster truck rally

Recently, the question of faith and art came up in my online writers’ group:  How does your faith affect your writing?  My first thought was, It doesn’t.  Of course, that’s not strictly true.  I write about faith here on this blog all the time.  But when I think of Christian writing, what comes to mind is usually non-fiction books that explain different aspects of faithful practice or junk fiction like Left Behind and Amish romance novels.  How could I explain what the intersection of faith and art are for me?

I’m not always sure that I’m writing about spiritual matters in the right manner.  I frequently don’t write in an explicitly “Christian” way–or at least, not the way I think some Christians expect me to.  I worry about the same things fellow writer Andrea Ward does:

I worry that my writing will not reflect God.
I worry about putting God in there artificially thereby making Him artificial and the story weaker.
I worry that writing about him will just make people tell me how wrong my theology is.

I often think my writing reflects God the same way monster trucks reflect safe driving tips.

Have you ever been to one of those monster truck rallies?  You know, the kind where the trucks drive through mud and run up ramps and pretty much just cause chaos?  My faith and my writing collide like a monster truck at a rally.  Creativity is the truck, splattering the mud of my faith everywhere.  Or perhaps it’s the other way around; it doesn’t really matter.  What’s important is that it’s messy and random and sometimes only makes sense from the inside, but it’s exciting and intense and one heck of a ride.

My faith is what drives me to seek justice and equity for all people.  When I write, it’s out of a deep need to put words to the feelings that bubble deep inside.  I can’t separate the two.  So when I take to my blog or I crank out a story, it’s infused with my sense of what-should-be.  Because of my faith,

  • I write about the ways the church has failed to exhibit “love your neighbor”
  • I plead for open minds and open hearts
  • I seek to write stories that don’t reinforce tired stereotypes and tropes
  • I ask others to do the same

I no longer worry that I need to mention Jesus every couple of sentences as a reminder that I’m technically a Christian writer.  I don’t expound on Bible texts, and I don’t often have fictional characters go through a moment of Christian salvation.  I work harder to explain the domestic abuse in Fifty Shades than I do to condemn the premarital sex.  Where my faith and my art collide, that is the space in which I find justice, peace, and wholeness.

How does your art reflect your spirituality?

Dismantling the wall of fear

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We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face… we must do that which we think we cannot.
(Eleanor Roosevelt)

A few days ago, fellow blogger Aaron posed this question to a group of writers in which we both participate:

What would you never write?

I think our failure to be brave with our words leads to cheap art, and when we use our spirituality as an excuse to pull punches in our writing we commit a tragic sin toward the faith we are professing.

So, what would you never write? Why are you scared to write that?

Good question.

My first instinct was to say, “Well, I think I’ve reached a point where I wouldn’t say there is anything I won’t write.”  I guess that’s a pretty good answer, other than the fact that it’s a downright lie.

When considering the question, I realized there are two things here: What won’t I write, and what am I afraid to write.  Those require separate responses.

There are definitely things I won’t write.  I don’t enjoy reading or writing graphic violence; you will never see anything written by me in which I have described a bloodbath.  I will not write rape or domestic violence in a way that glamorizes, glorifies, or titillates.  There are genres of literature that I don’t care to read or write; while I won’t say never, I can say that it’s highly unlikely.  Outside of those things, I’m not sure if there is anything else–only time will tell.

As for what I’m afraid to write, I think that category is shrinking, though a few things remain.  I have already broken most of the barriers I had put up against my own creativity.  I swore up and down that there were things I would absolutely never, ever write, because to do so would mean that I had somehow failed as a Christian.  As I took a hammer and whacked at every single brick I had used to build my walls, I figured out that in every single case, they were all shame-based fears.

This is one of the destructive forces of conservative evangelical culture.  Rather than viewing sin as a system of harm, sin has been reduced to a list of behaviors in which we must not engage–an updated and warped version of the Old Testament holiness codes, used to cow people into submission to “authority.”  (I could spend a very long time parsing this, but I’m digressing from my original point about writing.)  The result is people who are not only afraid to commit certain acts but are also afraid to think and write about them.  God is reduced to a Big, Angry Sky Daddy who cares more deeply about “immoral” thoughts than about the least of these.

For years, I thought that my writing had to reflect this bizarre and restrictive attitude.  I must either refrain from having characters engage in certain behaviors (most notably, swearing and sex), or I could have them do what they wanted but pass judgment on them for it.  Premarital sex was supposed to lead to disease or pregnancy and possibly be unpleasant or unwanted (particularly for women).  Sexual encounters must be implied rather than described, because erotic scenes could stir up inappropriate desires.  Swearing was reserved for nasty characters and must be softened rather than spelled out.  God forbid I should have any LGBT characters, unless they were tokens and/or “reformed” by the end of the story.  Even romantic literature itself sat on the fine edge between good storytelling and “emotional porn.”

Most of these taboos I learned while I was still in high school.  Because I felt a duty to “let my faith inform my writing,” my words became like dust.  Rather than being full of hope, life, and love, they were no more than parroting of the Rules for Right Thinking I had learned.  It didn’t help that I attended college and befriended a number of people who still kept to these rigid standards.  Even though I spent ten years in a far less suffocating church, I couldn’t let go of most of my hang-ups.

And then I ended up among even more conservative evangelicals than during my adolescence.

Call it rebellion.  Call it emerging.  Whatever term you use, I woke up.  I am actually thankful for that environment, because it was so much more extreme than what I’d experienced before that I couldn’t help seeing the damage being done.  I finally found my voice, and I was determined to use it.  Oh, I tested the waters cautiously at first, but it didn’t take long for me to dive in and start swimming.

I have now written nearly everything on my naughty list.  I’ve had characters swear like sailors; make love passionately; meet and fall in love with someone of the same sex; and do all of that without apology.  I’ve written about where I stand on feminism, LGBT issues, and the Bible.  I’ve even written about my history with rules-based theology in the churches I’ve attended (and people who know me absolutely know which churches I’m talking about, so the secret’s out).  Trust me when I say there’s not much left that scares me when it comes to writing.

Aaron left us a challenge as writers:

Today, write something you would never write. Stop pulling the punches. Stop being afraid of what they would say. Write hard. Share it with us; preach to us that writers and artists stir the pot instead of getting out of the hot kitchen.

I’m taking that challenge seriously.  There are things I haven’t written–in fiction or on this blog–that I’ve been hesitant to share.  But I’m going to go for it, because the only way to overcome those fears is to face them head-on.  The only way to grow as a writer is to acknowledge that I’m terrified of the reaction and take it on anyway.

What are you afraid to do (as a writer or in another capacity)?  How will you knock down the walls you’ve built?

Unresolved

Photo by Andrea Pavanello

I don’t make New Year’s resolutions.  I suppose this is partly because I’m highly resistant to anything that looks like it wants to force me to do anything.  I suppose other reasons include my preference for short-term goals, my suspicion that resolutions are superstitious, and the fact that I know almost no one who has achieved a goal set as a resolution.

The New Year never really feels to me like it’s my fresh start.  I suppose that’s because I have spent the vast majority of my life living on a school schedule.  Thirteen years of public school, college, work as a school nurse, a marriage with a teacher, and parenting school-age children have left me with the permanent dysfunction of making all my fresh starts in September, not January.

As a blogger, there has been a distinct shift in perspective for me.  I don’t stop writing or setting smaller goals in the summer; it’s not an extended time away from my work.  So here I sit, on January 3rd, contemplating the year ahead.

I don’t really know what this year has in store, for me personally or for this blog (even though I have control over the latter).  I do know that I don’t feel a need to make empty promises to myself about what I will do this year, but I also know that I need to make some changes in order to avoid becoming overbaked and stressed.

One of the big changes I’m making is that I’m sharing my space.  A couple of weeks ago, I created a tab for this blog where you can find information about writing a guest post.  Submissions are always welcome.  In the next week or so, I will be featuring guest posts by some of my fellow writers.  Not only does this give me a chance to introduce you to some wonderful people, it also gives me the opportunity to finish at least one of the three projects I have going at the moment.

Another change I need to consider is what I want and need as a writer.  My time is limited, and I must split it between reading and writing.  Not only that, I have to make choices every day about whether I’m going to blog or work on the fiction I have going and whether I will read books or blogs.  The limitations are not permanent; they are a function of having a young family and homeschooling a child.  However, those restrictions on my work hours do mean that I have to consider how I can make the most of the time I do have.

I’m not going to make any long-term commitments to myself or to my writing.  At this point, I will take what I can get when I can get it.  Instead, I’m beginning 2013 with a few short-term goals:  Finishing the book reviews I’m working on, hosting guest posts, and completing a non-blog work-in-progress.  I hope to be able to share the good news that I’ve completed these tasks by the end of the month.

What about you?  Do you make New Year’s resolutions, or do you prefer to let the year unfold as it will?  I would love to hear from you.

Guest Post: 2013: A Year for a New Feeling

I’m thrilled to be starting 2013 with the very first guest post ever on this blog.  Many thanks to Andrea for her contribution.

By Konrad Westermayr 1883-1917

A Year for a New Feeling

My emotions often show up on my face before they show up in my head. I have people ask me, “Are you okay?” A questioning looks crosses my face and I say, “Yeah.” Sometimes I throw in, “I’m just tired.” That’s to make them think I’m less crazy not because I really am that tired. After they have asked the question, I pause to think about why they asked that. Sometimes it comes to me right away and I realize what I am feeling. Sometimes it just doesn’t come to me and I have no clue what ‘that look’ on my face meant. I have somehow shut the door from my emotions to my brain. For some of you that might sound like a great thing and maybe it would be. Maybe if you pushed that door shut a little bit life would go better.  Maybe it wouldn’t. For me, it isn’t working anymore.

You see this year I felt a very clear call from God to write a memoir about the way people have influenced my walk with Him. I finally realized this year that I have been holding on to and not dealing with a whole lot of hurts. Holding on to them has served to ingrain them deeper into my psyche, my dealings with other people, and my habits. I also realized that I am not alone. There are others that are going through this struggle silently. They, like me, think they are alone or that they have dealt with it or that it isn’t that bad. And all of those thoughts are wrong.

So if I need to write this memoir to help other people dealing with this that I am dealing with, then I need to know what I am feeling and why. I need to know what I have felt and delve into those past events and past feelings. So this year I am committing to journal 3 times a week. I am going to be writing down what I am thinking and searching for what I am feeling. I want to embrace those things and open that door back up. So I am looking forward to 2013 as I rediscover my emotions.

What are you looking forward to in 2013?

Andrea is a working family woman who writes about faith and relationships.  She takes seriously the call on her life to encourage others.  You can read more about her on her blog, Jesus, You, and Me.

On Pause

I’m hitting the pause button today to write a couple of blog posts for other sites, which I will link to once they’re up.  I’m also on the home stretch of NaNoWriMo, with a mere 4,000-ish words to go.  Wish me luck!

In the meantime, two other things:

  • If you’re on Facebook, you can now “like” my page.  Just click the button on the sidebar.  You can also still follow me on Twitter.
  • I double posted yesterday (oops), so enjoy the bonus while you wait for my return.

If I’m not back tomorrow, I will be on Friday to highlight the blog news of the week.  If something you read catches your fancy, you can use the contact form to let me know or post it on my Facebook page.  Happy reading!

 

Notable News: Week of November 3-9, 2012

What a week!  This time last week, I was just starting my NaNoWriMo novel; I’m now over 13,000 words in.  I also discovered possibly the only two people in my social circles who had no idea that I support LGBT rights.  Who knew there was anyone still left?  In much more interesting news, this week saw some good writing around the Web.

1. Women set the election on fire

Dianna Anderson nicely sums up the great news for women.  We rocked the vote!  Among other things, women are at a record high in the U.S. Senate at 19.  I told my daughter that since we make up half the population, I would love to see half of the people representing us be women.  I hope that happens in her lifetime.

2. On no longer identifying as pro-life

Libby Anne, over at Love, Joy, Feminism,  has written a post on her move from being firmly in the pro-life camp to having a very different view today.  She sums up nicely exactly what I think about the subject.  (Note: Please do not debate Libby Anne’s words here on my blog; go to her page and interact with her.  I can’t speak for another person.  If you want to talk about abortion here, it had better be respectful.  I’m not going to tolerate shouting about how “wrong” anyone else is, calling people baby-killers, or demanding that anyone—myself included—change our views.)

3. Another perspective on unintended pregnancy

I understand why many people (particularly progressives) may not agree, but Thea Ramirez writes a compelling post about making adoption a more viable choice.  I have seen some of the challenges that face people seeking adoption, and I agree that change is needed.  There is certainly more room for honest discussion on the matter.

4. Writing is hard!

Stephanie Brooks understands the internal dialogue of many writers.  Here, she offers some practical solutions for the frustration many of us have when we perceive our writing to have fallen short.  I know that point number one, about failure to give ourselves time to write, is true for me.  It’s tough to balance my own goals and the needs of my family, which ultimately leads to unproductive days and writing that is definitely sub-par.

Join me next week for more juicy talk about Fifty Shades of Bad Writing and a brand-new series about the issues raised in A Year of Biblical Womanhood.  I hope you all have bought your copies so that we can grab a hot drink, a blanket, and settle in for some woman-to-woman chats.  Over the weekend, I hope to get in at least another 4,000 words on that NaNo Novel.  What are your plans?

Even in our books

Today marks the start of National Novel Writing Month.  Naturally, I’m participating.  (If you are as well, you can find me there under the user name Wifie29.)  I will be posting on this blog a bit less, because I intend to write every one of those 50,000 words this month.  I’m writing what might be most accurately called “low fantasy,” which means no elves/wizards/world-building/etc.; it also shares commonalities with Chick Lit (or maybe Women’s Fic, since it’s somewhat less light-hearted).

While browsing on my genre forum on the NaNoWriMo site, I came across a writer who has a very strong bias toward a complementarian view of men and women.  This translates to her writing, meaning that the women in her stories are often in traditional roles, as are the men.  Reading her posts had me thinking about the messages that girls receive from our culture.  One thing that stuck out to me is that my fellow NaNo’er had such a strong view on the ways in which women should be portrayed in literature.  She listed one of her pet peeves as being “strong” women who can fight like men.  Her belief is that this is impossible, that the strongest woman would not be a physical match for a barely average man.  She also dislikes women who aren’t skilled at domestic work, and she made it clear that she thinks that is a foolish plot and should essentially be abolished.

Well, goodness.  I guess this woman wouldn’t be keen on the women I know who are in the military.

You know, among the many benefits of homeschooling my daughter is the fact that she isn’t getting some of the social messages girls receive in public education.  Not that I’m perfect, mind you, or that I’m not guilty of passing on the wrong message from time to time.  I like to hope that I’m doing pretty well, though.  I don’t have to tell my daughter that girls are awesome; she already knows.  I don’t have to convince her that math and science are cool; she already discovered that on her own.  I don’t have to reassure her that her body is perfectly fine just the way it is; she already exudes body confidence.  I don’t have to explain to her that hair, makeup, and clothes are only one aspect of the way a person looks; she already understands that.  I don’t have to encourage her to be a strong, independent leader; she already does that.

Despite my best efforts, though, my daughter will still be exposed to those messages in other, perhaps more subtle, ways.  The societal and cultural attitudes about girls and women are often broadcast through books.  It is an unfortunate reality that there are still very few books that feature a strong woman or girl as the main character and which also have the broader appeal to all children.  A common complaint about fantasy lit, for example, is that when a girl is the main character, she is often the “plucky tomboy-princess” type.  There’s an unspoken sense that boys won’t relate to girl characters unless they are “less” like girls.  In addition, women authors still frequently use initials instead of their names in order to broaden their readership.

As a little test, ask yourself this: Would you have read Harry Potter if Harry had been a girl?*  How about Lord of the Rings?  Would you have read the former if you had known it was written by a woman?  (That wasn’t widespread knowledge at the time the first book was published.)  Would you have read the latter if it had been written by a woman?  No, it’s not a moot point.  If you feel uncomfortable answering these questions, maybe you can see what I’m talking about.  If you immediately jump to saying something like, “But the story wouldn’t have worked!” then you’ve just made my point for me.

I’ve mentioned these issues before, and I’ve often gotten reactions that range from, “Right on!” to “You must be kidding.”  Unsurprisingly, the negative reactions are usually from men who either can’t or won’t see the ways in which women’s voices have been silenced or altered to fit a cultural norm.  And unless something changes, it’s the message our daughters will continue to hear, many of them absorbing it and embracing it.

That’s not the world I want for my daughter.  Maybe it’s time we started teaching our girls a new message about the kinds of people they can be and the kinds of things they can do.  So here’s my challenge:  Find books written by women and featuring girls or women in the lead roles.  Read them aloud or give them to your children to read, particularly your sons.

Well, folks, it’s time for me to get cracking on my NaNo novel.  Don’t forget to submit your essays for the contest via the “contact” link on the right.  You can see all the rules here.  Everyone is welcome to write an essay!

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*This post was about girls/women, but the same set of questions can be applied using other examples.  Would you have read about Harry if he’d been non-white or queer or disabled?  Would you say the story “wouldn’t work” any other way?  Women’s voices aren’t the only ones silenced in literature.