Better late than never, right? Blogging’s been hit or miss this summer, as sometimes happens when both kids and my husband are on school vacation. Today, we kept ourselves busy by sending my car to the shop (possibly for the last time; we’ll see) and hanging out at the children’s museum. Anyway, here I am to bring you my favorite posts from the week.
1. Being used
If you haven’t seen this piece on being “used by God,” you may not have been on the Internet this week. It’s been passed around by just about everyone. I’m sharing it here in case you missed it.
2. Being used (part 2)
Here’s a cartoon by the always-wonderful David Hayward in response. I particularly like this quote (and also the non-use of gendered pronouns for God):
Pushing that to its logical limits, the glory of God is God, and when we are our truest selves, fully alive, this is God in all God’s glory. There is now no separation. There is perfect oneness. There is perfect unity.
3. Being abused
This is a wonderful post over at Deeper Story by Susannah Paul. We are failing to listen to those who have been deeply wounded and spiritually abused by churches. I wish I had just a penny for the number of times someone has said they are reluctant to return to church because of the pain and some well-meaning person has said, “You just need to find the right church.” A small part of me curls up and dies every single time. We can do better.
4. Being owned
If you haven’t been following Sarah Moon’s You Are Not Your Own series, you should go do that right now. I mean it. Stop reading this post and just go do it. If you just want to read the most recent one, that’s cool, because it’s an excellent one about unmarried women and “ownership.” I am thankful my parents never took this approach with me.
5. Being a dancer
A friend sent me the link to this post about boys and dancing. As the mom of a boy who dances, I always appreciate hearing from other parents who are proud of their kids and don’t limit them based on gender expectations. What does make me sad is that nearly all of the ones about boys and breaking stereotypes are by women. If anyone wants to comment here and link to posts by dads of boys who do things society considers “feminine,” that would be welcome.
6. Being an adoptee/adoptive parent
A fresh perspective on the “But people want your unborn baby!” from a mom with two adopted daughters.
7. Being body confident
Like many women, I’ve had a lifelong struggle to love my body exactly as it is. I’m doing my best not to pass those feelings on to my own daughter. Body-shaming must end. (I could write a whole post on this, but I also think health-shaming and exercise-shaming and food-shaming need to end.) Here are some wise words about how we can break the cycle.
8. Being a douchebag
My online friend and fellow writer Tim Gallen has some great advice for those looking to increase their douchebaggery. My favorite line involves a sexually frustrated large mammal. This is a guest post for Kim Ulmanis, who is honest and funny and just plain good; you should check out the rest of her blog while you’re over there.
9. Being a douchebag (part 2)
And speaking of douches, why am I not surprised that Hugo Schwyzer is at it again? Why is this guy continually given a platform? I think Dianna Anderson answers that question to an extent in her fantastic take-down of the culture that encourages people like Schwyzer to behave the way they do.
10. Being a writer
There’s so much advice out there on how to be a “proper” writer. Honestly, it’s easier to explain how to do it wrong than to do it right, as evidenced in this very funny piece by Chuck Wendig. How many of these are you doing?
11. Being a woman
Several of my friends posted this hilarious ad. I shared it on Facebook, but it definitely deserves a second round. If only that kid had been available when I hit puberty.
12. Being a geek
I love this video of Wil Wheaton delivering a message for a convention attendee’s newborn daughter. I admit to having had a teensy (okay, huge) crush on him when I was in 8th grade. Although I no longer sigh like a teenage girl when I see him, I do keep finding new reasons to think he’s just plain awesome.
13. Being a geek (part 2)
That video above is particularly important, because far too many girls grow up into women who have to defend our geekiness. I’m glad I’m raising a boy who thinks that girls who know their video games are the most fun and a girl who knows it’s okay to be completely absorbed in your chosen geekdom. Watch this video for more totally awesome geeks who just happen to be girls and women. Also, Wil Wheaton.
14. Being from Rochester
My own city gets some love at HuffPo with an article on our fantastic street art. I’ve never been more proud of my wonderful city!
That’s it for this week. I should be around a bit more in the coming weeks (I hope). If nothing else, check in on Monday for the first post on Fifty Shades Darker. I would say you don’t want to miss it, but this is Fifty Shades we’re talking about.
Have a great weekend!